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A 13-Year-Old In A Museum
by Nancy Collier
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 On a recent visit to the Museum of Modern Art with a friend and her daughter, meandering through the museum’s exhibits, I was struck by how often my friend’s 13-year-old daughter asked us to take photos of her (on her Smartphone) in front of the artwork. Her head tilted, she gazed contemplatively at the pieces, the photos of which she would then feverishly post on Instagram, Snapchat and all the rest. She was not by the way the only young (or older) person doing this; everyone it seemed was busy taking photos of themselves “experiencing” the museum.
This is by no means a criticism of my friend’s daughter (or anyone else). What was concerning, at least to me, was that in between being photographed and posting, my friend’s daughter had no interest in the artwork, a fact which didn’t seem to matter or have anything to do with wanting to post herself as someone enjoying the experience. Now when I was her age, I had no interest in going to museums either, and when I did get dragged there, I couldn’t wait to get out of the building. Having no interest in art at her age (and any age) is completely normal and not disturbing in the least.
But what is disturbing is how much of a young person’s energy these days goes into creating an image of the life they’re living and the character they “are” in that life. While creating a self-image has always been a big part of growing up and figuring out our identity, social media seems to have changed the rules of the game. Social media has not just intensified the pressure and possibility to create a self-generated self-image, but also distorted the process by which we become who we are. Young people now seem to be creating an image of who they are in place of becoming who they are, posting their life rather than living it. The effort that goes into creating an identity and getting it noticed or “followed” has replaced the effort of actually getting interested in the life that they are posting.
No matter what the experience is actually about, it becomes about you, the person who is living it. A concert is not about the music, a restaurant not about the food, a sporting event not about the sport, a funeral not about the loss; it’s all about you, the doer, and what the event says about you. Life experiences are not lived directly so much as they are used as opportunities for announcing what kind of person you are. Life now is a product through which to promote your image, but (and here’s where it gets really strange) with little connection to whether that screen image accurately reflects the inside you.
The fact that posting where we are and what we’re doing is often more important than being where we are or doing what we’re doing, is one of the most disturbing ways that we are changing in the wake of technology and its offspring. Our experience has meaning only in the way it says something about us–how it helps create our self-image. As a result, we feel more separate and disconnected from our life; meaning feels harder to find. The more we use life to create an identity, the more cut off from life we feel. Instead of being part of it, in the flow of life, we feel as if we have to keep generating new life material, more life stuff, which will announce, establish us, and ultimately, prove our existence. In the meanwhile, the chasm between us and life grows wider and wider.
The next time you are inclined to post your story and all that goes with it, pause for a moment and experience where you are, feel what it feels like to live what you’re living, sensing what you’re sensing, without doing anything with it—without using life for your benefit, or for anything at all. Just live, without the narrative. While it may feel like this exercise could pose a threat to your identity, cause you to miss an opportunity to establish your value, in fact, the benefit it can offer to your true self, to that within you that longs to be part of and not separate from life, will far outweigh any loss incurred. But don’t take my word for it, try it out for yourself.
About the Author: Nancy Colier is an equestrian on the national horse show circuit and serves as a performance consultant to athletes and artists.
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A 13-Year-Old In A Museum
How do you relate to the distinction between creating an image of who we are and becoming who we are? Can you share a personal story of a time you were able to disconnect from creating an image and lean into living life directly? What helps you avoid the trap of using life as a product to promote your image? |
| Jagdish P Dave wrote: The self-image that I create is only the reflection of the outside of me. It is like stagnant water rather than the flowing river. My life is dynamic. It is not static. It is becoming. It is a process… |
| Sunil Mor wrote: We are essentially a spiritual being rather than a physical human being. Soul seperates us from the body.Once we understand this eternal truth we stop the said imagery but liven the real.This disconne… |
| David Doane wrote: There is a lot of creating an image occurring rather than becoming who we are. I agree with Nancy Collier that creating an image is a frequent phase, especially for young people, in figuring out our i… |
| David Doane wrote: Don’t you think soul becomes the body? And it’s our lack of awareness of that that creates the appearance of separation of body and soul? That is what I have come to believe…. |
| Sunil Mor wrote: Agree. Union of body and soul is the ultimate goal. If one can reach that rare stage, then there may not be any questions to answer at all.No confusion or doubts. Everything is within and with us abun… |
| David Doane wrote: If I may add another comment: I believe body and soul are in union, are one, and it’s for us to become aware of that and realize that in our awareness and living. Alan Watts said, "We divide … |
| Sunil Mor wrote: Ramna Mahshri asks "Who am I ?" Soul not body. But Equally value your thoughts too with all the respects…. |
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