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A Third Force (+ Thursday)

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Dear Friends,

On a recent blog post, Bonnie elaborated on Rumi’s field “beyond wrong-doing and right-doing” as a Third Force: “The Third Force teaches that a conflict contains both an affirming and denying factor — a yes and a no. Our typical response is to struggle with that duality, and try to get the other side to change. The Third Force, however, is a reconciling factor that offers something greater, by first identifying the affirming and denying factors and then surrendering to the tension of opposites. We stop looking for answers in the limits of our knowing and trust a vastness that is both infinite and intimate.”

In service to that third force, a few upcoming events …

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  • It’s summer. As a start, that means, we’re revving up for the buzz of youthful energy. Next week, seven amazing teens are kicking off our summer internship. If you read their illuminating wisdom and enthusiasm, you’d see why all the mentors are wondering, 🙂 “Who’s the intern and who’s the mentor?” Also, next week, Audrey and crew are hosting over 200 change-makers across 25 countries in our first-ever Laddership Pod! Even just reading their inspirations can leave you with goosebumps.
  • Bowing. The only time that our heart is higher than our hands and head is when we bow. In the late 70s, Rev. Heng Sure’s remarkable bowing pilgrimage across 800 miles inspired many. This weekend, two monks are offering a virtual one-hour ‘three steps and a bow’ practice. Join this Saturday.

On a recent call that Preeta called "truly transportive and transformative", Rabbi Ariel Burger shared a beautiful story from the Jewish oral tradition. Fortunately, it’s now transcribed. 🙂 Here’s how it starts: "One day, Baal Shem Tov saddled up his wagon and horses. His driver, Alexi, had a peculiar way of traveling — he would sit facing backwards and let the horses go wherever they want to go. That Sabbath eve, they traveled several hours until they stopped at a poor man’s house." Full story here. #ThirdForce

To close, here’s a prayer by Larry Yang that Bradley recently shared at our Awakin Circle: “May I be loving, open, and aware in this moment; If I cannot be loving, open, and aware in this moment, may I be kind; If I cannot be kind, may I be nonjudgmental; If I cannot be nonjudgmental, may I not cause harm; If I cannot not cause harm, may I cause the least harm.”

In the spirit of service,

Nipun
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P.S. Over the last couple weeks, KarunaVirus team has been asking: how does compassion respond to racism? In Philadelphia, two friends bring a basketball hoop to protests, inviting officers and protesters and anyone to play. In California, one woman organizes a different kind of protest, where hundreds turned out to clean the streets. In Tennessee, a black man shares his fear of walking alone and being seen as a threat. Next day, 75 neighbors show up to walk with him. In Minnesota, a school asks for 80 bags of groceries for riot-hit families. Next day, 25,000 bags fill its lawns. In Chicago, a store owner loses everything to looters. In two weeks, 6,400 people help cover his costs. In New York, an 18-year-old pulls an all-nighter cleaning up protest damage. When word got out, strangers gifted him a car and scholarship. As cities and sports revise policies, reporters ask: what does it really take to bring lasting change?
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Eula Bliss: Talking About Whiteness

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Eula Bliss: Talking About Whiteness

We are, in other words, continuous with everything here on earth. Including, and especially, each other.

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Eula Bliss: Talking About Whiteness

You can’t think about something if you can’t talk about it, says Eula Biss. The writer helpfully opens up lived words and ideas like complacence, guilt, and opportunity hoarding for an urgent reckoning with whiteness. This conversation was inspired by her 2015 essay in The New York Times, “White Debt.” More from Krista Tippett here. { read more }

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Awakin Weekly: Four Types Of Listening

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Four Types Of Listening
by Otto Scharmer

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2426.jpgIn my years of working with groups and organizations, I have identified four basic types of listening.

“Ya, I know that already.” The first type of listening is downloading: listening by reconfirming habitual judgments. When you are in a situation where everything that happens confirms what you already know, then you are listening by downloading.

“Ooh, look at that!” The second type of listening is object-focused listening: listening by paying attention to factual and to the novel or disconfirming data. In this type of listening you pay attention to what differs from what you already know. You attend to ideas about reality that differ from your own rather than denying them (as you do in the case of downloading). Object-focused or factual listening is the basic mode of good science. You ask questions and you carefully observe the responses that nature (data) gives to you.

“Oh, yes, I know how you feel.” The third and deeper level of listening is empathic listening. When we are engaged in real dialogue, we can, when paying attention, become aware of a profound shift in the place from which our listening originates. As long as we operate from the first two types of listening, our listening originates from within the boundaries of our own mental-cognitive organization. But when we listen empathically, our perception shifts from our own organization into the field, to the other, to the place from which the other person is speaking. When moving into that mode of listening we have to activate our empathy by connecting directly, heart to heart, to the other person. If that happens, we feel a profound switch; we forget about our own agenda and begin to see how the world unfolds through someone else’s eyes. When operating in this mode, we usually feel what another person wants to say before the words take form. And then we may recognize whether a person chooses the right word or the wrong one to express something. That judgment is only possible when we have a direct sense of what someone wants to say before we analyze what she actually says. Empathic listening is a skill that can be cultivated and developed, just like any other skill in human relations. It’s a skill that requires us to activate a different source of intelligence-the intelligence of the heart.

“I can’t express what I experience in words. My whole being has slowed down. I feel more quiet, present and more my real self. I am connected to something larger than myself.” This is the fourth level of listening. It moves beyond the current field and connects to a still deeper realm of emergence. I call this level of listening generative listening, or listening from the emerging field of the future. This level of listening requires us to access our open heart and open will — our capacity to connect to the highest future possibility that wants to emerge. On this level our work focuses on getting our (old) self out of the way in order to open a space, a clearing that allows for a different sense of presence to manifest. We no longer look for something outside. We no longer empathize with someone in front of us. We are in an altered state — maybe communion or grace is the word that comes closest to the texture of this experience that refuses to be dragged onto the surface of words.

You’ll notice that this fourth level of listening differs in texture and outcomes from the others. You know that you have been operating on the fourth level when you realize that, at the end of the conversation, you are no longer the same person you were when you started the conversation. You have gone through a subtle but profound change. You have connected to a deeper source — to the source of who you really are and to a sense of why you are here — a connection that links you with a profound field of coming-into-being, with your emerging authentic Self.

About the Author: Otto Scharmer is a professor at MIT, founder of Presencing Institute, and a pioneer of GAIA University. The excerpt above is from his ground-breaking book, Theory U: Learning from the Future as it Emerges.

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