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Spotlight On Kindness: Healing By Listening

Have you ever found yourself talking to someone who was not actually listening? We have all experienced that and have been that inattentive person as well. Thich Nhat Hanh’s “compassionate listening” requires the listener to be fully present and empathetic, and allows for true healing. When we truly experience this, our world and our sense of self can transform dramatically. – Jane

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Editor’s Note: Have you ever found yourself talking to someone who was not actually listening? We have all experienced that and have been that inattentive person as well. Thich Nhat Hanh’s “compassionate listening” requires the listener to be fully present and empathetic, and allows for true healing. When we truly experience this, our world and our sense of self can transform dramatically. – Jane
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How to Hardwire Resilience into the Brain

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April 24, 2018

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How to Hardwire Resilience into the Brain

Success is not final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts.

– Winston Churchill –

How to Hardwire Resilience into the Brain

Mental resources like calm, grit, and courage help us cope with and push through obstacles in our own lives. But how do we cultivate them? The key is knowing how to turn passing experiences into lasting inner resources built into our brains. This skill, positive neuroplasticity, is not a quick fix, but you can change your brain for the better by working it the same way you would work a muscle. As you become more resilient in the face of life’s challenges, you move toward greater well-being and away from stress, worry, frustration, and hurt. { read more }

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Be mindful of which particular needsafety, satisfaction, or connectionis at stake in the challenges of your life. Deliberately call upon your inner strengths related to meeting that need. Then, as you experience mental resources, you can reinforce them in your nervous system.

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Awakin Weekly: Recycling Karmic Trash

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Recycling Karmic Trash
by Shinzen Young

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tow1.jpgIt’s very common for people on a meditative or spiritual path to develop a kind of sensitivity to the poison and pain of others. Sometimes it’s formulated with the phrase “I pick up all this negativity.” Sometimes it’s formulated with the phrase “People drain my energy.” A closely related perception runs something like this: “Now that I’ve developed some spiritual maturity, I find it difficult to relate to old friends/family/ordinary people; they so cluelessly cause themselves unneeded suffering; I no longer have much in common with them.”

Regarding such sentiments, there are several things to keep in mind. First: They represent a temporary stage that the practitioner eventually grows out of. Second: When you do grow out of it, it’s replaced by its exact opposite: the more clueless and messed up people are, the more you enjoy being around them. You can make the transition from that temporary stage to its opposite by realizing this:

When we’re around other people, we pick up on where they’re at. If they’re in a bad place, we pick up on that. One might refer to that as exogenous discomfort. It’s discomfort whose origin (genesis) is from the outside (exo), i.e., you’re feeling uncomfortable because of what is going on in someone else. The term exogenous contrasts with the term endogenous. Endogenous discomfort is discomfort due to our own stuff. The main point to remember is that the discomfort, endogenous or exogenous, typically comes up as some combination of mental image, mental talk, and emotional body sensation. To the extent that one can experience that sensory arising completely, to that extent it does not cause suffering. It doesn’t matter one bit whether the source of suffering is exogenous or endogenous or some combination of both. By “experience it completely” I simply mean experience it mindfully, i.e., experience it in a state of concentration, sensory clarity, and equanimity.

When the discomfort is endogenous and you experience it very mindfully, it doesn’t cause much suffering, it “tastes” like you’re being purified. When the discomfort is exogenous and you experience it very mindfully, not only does it not cause suffering, but it tastes like you and the other person both are being purified. In other words, how your consciousness processes another’s pain subtly teaches that person’s consciousness to do the same. The other person may not be aware that’s happening, but you’re aware of it. You’re aware that you are nourishing that person, and that subtly nurtures you. That’s why you eventually come to enjoy being around clueless messed up people. Paraphrasing the Blues Brothers, you’re “on a secret mission from God.” You walk through life like a giant air filter picking up the psychospheric pollution and automatically processing it, extracting from it energy and then radiating that energy as positivity. You know your job and you love it: recycling the karmic trash.

Needless to say, it may take a while to work up to this, but everyone on a path should aspire to this perspective.

This situation contrasts in an interesting way with the goals of psychology. In certain therapeutic approaches, the goal is to get the client to the point where they can distinguish “what’s me” from “what’s them.” In contemplative-based spirituality, the goal is to get to the point where you no longer care about that distinction!

About the Author: Sourced from here. Shinzen Young is an American mindfulness teacher and neuroscience research consultant.

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The Third Self: Mary Oliver on the Artist’s Task

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The Third Self: Mary Oliver on the Artist's Task

When the spirit does not work with the hand, there is no art.

– Leonardo Da Vinci –

The Third Self: Mary Oliver on the Artist’s Task

In “Of Power and Time” found in “Upstream: Selected Essays,” poet Mary Oliver delves deep into the psyche of the artist and explores the external and internal factors affecting creativity. In it she describes three parts of herself — two ordinary ones, and one third self “where the wellspring of creative energy resides.” This third self cannot be controlled, and is often its worst enemy. “What does it have to say? That you must phone the dentist, that you are out of mustard, that your uncle Stanleyâs birthday is two weeks hence. . . . Then you return to your work, only to find that the imps of idea have fled back into the mist.” Here, Brainpickings’ Maria Popova masterfully weaves a discourse on creativity’s friends and foes using Oliver’s brilliant insights as well as quotes and concepts from other artists. Read on for more.

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Why Your Brain Needs to Dream

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Why Your Brain Needs to Dream

Yet it is in our idleness, in our dreams, that the submerged truth sometimes comes to the top.

– Virginia Woolf –

Why Your Brain Needs to Dream

Matthew Walker, neuroscientist and author of “Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams,” maintains that dreaming is like overnight therapy and that it enhances creativity and problem-solving. He shares more in this article that also includes five tips for enhancing sleep. { read more }

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Trauma in the Body: An Interview with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk

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Trauma in the Body: An Interview with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk

Work on the body is very important to help people feel fully alive. Aside from telling their story they must reacquaint themselves with their body. Trauma isn’t out there it is right in here.

– Dr. Bessel van der Kolk –

Trauma in the Body: An Interview with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk

Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.founder and medical director of the Trauma Center in Brookline, Massachusettsis professor of psychiatry at Boston University Medical School, and director of the National Child Traumatic Stress Network. His newest book, The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma, offers a revolutionary new understanding of the causes and consequences of trauma and how to heal the traumatized brain through diverse therapies such as neurofeedback, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, theater, yoga, and movement. More in this in-depth interview. { read more }

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Humans. Horses. Hope.

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Humans. Horses. Hope.

Those who teach the most about humanity, aren’t always humans.

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Humans. Horses. Hope.

You have probably heard of a guide dog, but have you ever heard of a guide horse? This series of videos shows that, just like dogs, horses can help people with disabilities to live better lives. They help blind people move around in crowded places, help children to develop balance, and act as a companion for people in need. Enjoy these heart-warming videos!

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The Story of Kaveri (and Every River Everywhere)

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The Story of Kaveri (and Every River Everywhere)

Wonder how a river came to flow? Wonder what keeps her going? This story, from the perspective of the river Kaveri in India, is a story of rivers everywhere. Where forests grow, rivers flow. When forests die, rivers go dry. The only way to revive rivers is to bring back the forests that we have lost, and protect the forests that we have left. Forests store and release water more effectively and efficiently than any manmade dam or canal. And every tree helps grow a forest. Let there be forests. Let there be water.
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A World Where All the Gazi’s Go to School

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A World Where All the Gazi's Go to School

Education is not a tool for development– individual, community, and the nation. It is the foundation for our future. It is empowerment to make choices and emboldens the youth to chase their dreams.

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A World Where All the Gazi’s Go to School

Gazi Jalaluddin has a clear vision: a world where no “Gazi” has to stop going to school. Poverty forced him to quit school as a child. He ultimately became a taxi driver in Kolcalata. By asking passengers to donate books, old clothes or medicine, he has helped many children return to their studies. By 2012, Gazi had also created two schools for 425 students and built an orphanage. Gazi’s belief in the dignity of work pushed him to teach the young men of his village to drive taxis under the condition they donate a fraction of their earnings and teach two more needy boys. There are now 300 boys from the Sundarbans driving taxis and earning a living in Kolkata. Gazi admits that sometimes he struggles, but he is quick to express his gratitude to the passengers who have helped him achieve his dream. { read more }

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Re-inventing Work: An Interview with Matthew Fox

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Re-inventing Work: An Interview with Matthew Fox

If you have built castles in the air; your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.

– Henry David Thoreau –

Re-inventing Work: An Interview with Matthew Fox

An early and influential proponent of “Creation Spirituality,” which recognizes the Divine in all creation and all creation in the Divine, embracing Buddhism, Judaism, Sufism, and Native American spirituality as well, Episcopalian priest Matthew Fox draws inspiration from the Catholic mystics such as Hildegard of Bingen, Thomas Aquinas, Saint Francis of Assisi, and especially Meister Eckhart. In this interview Fox explains the difference between work, our calling, and a job, which pays our bills. In an ideal situation, one could do both. But you can learn more here about what he calls the spiritual crisis in idleness and the woundedness that can come from work. { read more }

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