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A Cookie Giving Experiment in New York City

Our love is sooo big. It has room for everybody. — Cari Tuna

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Good News of the Day:
“At around 12:30 AM Thursday morning, I began my expedition to give out cookies to strangers in NYC. I first offered a cookie to the front desk security guard; he looked in the bag and took the biggest cookie he could find and said thank you. I thought, “Well that’s the biggest cookie in the bag, that’s a bit selfish.” Nonetheless, I smiled and was happy to give him a cookie. Lesson 1: I noticed my mind is on autopilot! Even when I was trying to give out a bag of cookies, I was judging the receivers! Although, I was happy to give the cookie, I still had expectations: What cookie will they take? A big one? A small one? A couple? How will they respond? With gratitude? Indifference? Skepticism?” A real world story of experiments (and reflections) in anonymous kindness.
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We are frequently giving and receiving. Today, expand your circle to include someone new.

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Dharma Quote from Snow Lion Publications

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Buddha means one who is fully enlightened. In other words, a buddha has fully awakened from the sleep of delusion. He is free from all obscurations, both gross and subtle, and has revealed the two intrinsic wisdom awarenesses. Buddhahood is the spontaneously established, uncompounded nature that does not depend on any other conditions. A buddha has perfect wisdom, has perfectly accomplished the nature of compassion, and has every ability to manifest all excellent activities.

There are many buddhas in the past, present, and future. In fact, there are as many buddhas as there are particles of dust. Basically, the term buddha refers to anyone whose mind is fully awakened and who is free from all suffering and its causes. When we point to Buddha Shakyamuni as a buddha, he is an example of this. A buddha has four forms, all of which emanate from the dharmakaya:

  1. Nirmanakaya is a buddha who has emanated in a physical form. A nirmanakaya can emanate anywhere as anything animate or inanimate–as a human being, an animal, or even a bridge, if necessary…
  2. Sambhogakaya is the expression of the complete, perfect manifestation of the Buddha’s excellent, infinite qualities, called the enjoyment body–splendid and glorious. All the buddhas appear and manifest in the limitless buddha fields in this form…
  3. Dharmakaya is one’s own perfection, fully free from all delusion and suffering. It is infinite and transcends all boundaries…
  4. Svabhavikakaya is the indivisible nature of the other three forms.(p.165)

–from A Complete Guide to the Buddhist Path by Khenchen Konchog Gyaltshen, edited by Khenmo Trinlay Chodron, published by Snow Lion Publications

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A Doctor’s Notes on Hurt & Healing in Haiti

It’s when we start working together that the real healing takes place… it’s when we start spilling our sweat, and not our blood. — David Hume

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Good News of the Day:
“There is always humming from somewhere. It is usually low and musical as patients try to distract themselves from phantom limb pain that is not at all phantom. It is 13 days after the earthquake. I am coordinating a 12-member team at St. Marc’s hospital, a government facility on the west coast of Haiti.” In this gripping piece, poet-doctor Sriram Shamasunder covers life and death, resilience, compassion, healing and hope as he describes the experience of working in Haiti directly after the earthquake.
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Be The Change:
Spend healing time this week with someone who is in the hospital or coping with illness.

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Quote of the Week | Begin with Kindness to Yourself

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January 19, 2012

BEGIN WITH KINDNESS TO YOURSELF

We are all in this together. So when you realize that youre talking to yourself, label it thinking and notice your tone of voice. Let it be compassionate and gentle and humorous. Then youll be changing old stuck patterns that are shared by the whole human race. Compassion for others begins with kindness to ourselves.

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What We Aren’t Taught About Creative Thinking

The artist is not a special kind of person; rather each person is a special kind of artist. — Ananda Coomaraswamy

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Tip of the Day:
“Creativity is paradoxical. To create, a person must have knowledge but forget the knowledge, must see unexpected connections in things but not have a mental disorder, must work hard but spend time doing nothing as information incubates, must create many ideas yet most of them are useless, must look at the same thing as everyone else, yet see something different, must desire success but embrace failure, must be persistent but not stubborn, and must listen to experts but know how to disregard them.” Author Michael Michaelko shares more about “creative thinkering”: igniting natural creativity through inspiring techniques and practical examples.
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Maintain a conscious intention today to ignite your own natural creativity and artistry.

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Kindness Daily: Where is Jeremy’s Egg?

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Where is Jeremy’s Egg? January 17, 2012 – Posted by helpfulguy
Jeremy was born with a twisted body, slow mind, and chronic terminal illness that had been slowly killing him throughout his young life. Still, his parents had tried their best to give him as normal of a life as posible and sent him to St. Theresa’s Elementary school.

At the age of 12, Jeremy was only in second grade, seemingly unable to learn. His teacher, Doris often became exasperated with him. He would often disturb the class by squirming in his seat. drooling, and making grunting noises.

Sometimes, he spoke clearly and distinctly, as if a spot of light had penetrated the darkness of his brain. Most of the time, he just irritated his teacher. One day, Dorris called his parents and asked them to come to St. Theresa’s for a consultation.

Jeremy’s parents sat quietly in the empty classroom in front of Ms. Doris, and she exclaimed to them, "Jeremy really belongs in a special school. It isn’t fair to him to be with younger children who don’t have learning problems. Why, there is a five year gap between his age and that of the other students!"

Mrs. Forrester cried softly into a tissue while her husband spoke."Miss Miller,"he said,"there is no school of that kind nearby. It would be a terrible shock for Jeremy if we had to take him out of this school. He really likes it here."

Doris sat for a long time after they left, staring at the snow outside the window. Its coldness seemed to seep into her soul. She wanted to sympathize with the Forresters. After all, their only child had a terminal illness. But it wasn’t fair to keep him in her class. She had 18 other youngsters to teach, and Jeremy was a distraction. Furthermore,he would never learn to read and write.Why waste any more time trying?

As she pondered the situation, guilt washed over her."Oh God,"she said aloud,"here I am complaining, when my problems are nothing compared with that poor family.

From that day on,she tried hard to ignore Jeremy’s noises and his blank stares. Then one day he limped to her desk, dragging his bad leg behind him.

"I love you, Miss Miller" he exclaimed, loud enough for the whole class to hear.The other students snickered, and Doris’s face turned red. She stammered, "Wh-why, thats very nice, Jeremy. Now please take your seat."

Spring came and the children talked excitedly about the coming of Easter. Doris told them the story of Jesus,and then to emphasize the idea of new life springing forth,she gave each of them a large plastic egg."Now," She said to them, "I want you to take this home and bring it back tomorrow with something inside that shows new life. Do you understand? "Yes,Miss Miller!" The children responded enthusiastically. All the children responded except for Jeremy. He just listened intently; his eyes never left her face. He did not even make his usual noises.

Had he understood what she had said about Jesus’s death and resurrection? Did he understand the assignment?

The next morning, 19 children came to school, laughing and talking as they placed their eggs in a large wicker basket on Miss Miller’s desk. After they completed their math lesson,it was time to open the eggs.

In the first egg, Doris found a flower."Oh yes, a flower is certainly a sign of new life," she said. When plants peek through the ground, we know that spring is here." A small girl in the first row waved her arm. "That’s my egg Miss Miller" she called out.

The next egg had a beautiful butterfly in it, and one had a rock with moss on it. Then Doris opened the forth egg,it was empty! Surely it must be Jeremy’s she thought, and of course, he did not understand the instructions.

She put that egg down so she wouldn’t embarrass him. Suddenly Jeremy spoke up and said " Aren’t you going to talk about my egg?Flustered, Doris replied, "But Jeremy-your egg is empty!" Jeremy look into her eyes and said softly "Yes, but Jesus’s tomb was empty,too!"

Time stoped. When she could speak again, Doris asked him. "Do you know why his tomb was empty?" "Oh yes!" Jeremy exclaimed "Jesus was killed and put in there. Then his father raised him up!"

The recess bell rang. While the children excitedly ran out to the school yard, Doris cried. The cold inside her melted completly away.

Three months later, Jeremy died. Those who paid their respects at the funeral were surprised to see 19 eggs on top of his Jeremey’s casket, all of them empty.

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In Africa, the Art of Listening

The first duty of love is to listen. — Paul Tillich

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“For nearly 25 years I’ve lived off and on in Mozambique. Time has passed, and I’m no longer young; in fact, I’m approaching old age. But my motive for living this straddled existence, with one foot in African sand and the other in European snow, in the melancholy region of Norrland in Sweden where I grew up, has to do with wanting to see clearly, to understand. The simplest way to explain what I’ve learned from my life in Africa is through a parable about why human beings have two ears but only one tongue. Why is this? Probably so that we have to listen twice as much as we speak. In Africa listening is a guiding principle. It’s a principle that’s been lost in the constant chatter of the Western world,” shares author Henning Mankell in this insightful NY Times article.
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Year of Dancing with Life – Week 15

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InnerNet Weekly: Dignity of Restraint

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Dignity of Restraint
by Thanissaro Bhikkhu

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A word that tends to disappear from common vocabulary is restraint: foregoing certain pleasures, not because we have to, but because they go against our principles. The opportunity to indulge in those pleasures may be there, but we learn how to say no. This of course is related to another word we tend not to use, and that’s temptation. Even though we don’t have to believe that there’s someone out there actively tempting us, there are things all around us that do, that tempt us to give in to our desires. And an important part of our practice is that we exercise restraint.

What’s good about it? Well, for one thing, if we don’t have any restraint, we don’t have any control over where our lives are going. Anything that comes our way immediately pulls us into its wake. We don’t have any strong sense of priorities, of what’s really worthwhile, of what’s not worthwhile, of the pleasures we’d gain by saying no to other pleasures. How do we rank the pleasures in our lives, the happiness, the sense of well-being that we get in various ways? Actually, there’s a sense of well-being that comes from being totally independent, from not needing other things. If that state of well-being doesn’t have a chance to develop, if we’re constantly giving in to our impulse to do this or take that, we’ll never know what that well-being is.

At the same time, we’ll never know our impulses. When you simply ride with your impulses, you don’t understand their force. They’re like the
currents below the surface of a river: only if you try to build a dam across the river will you detect those currents and appreciate how strong they are. So we have to look at what’s important in life, develop a strong sense of priorities, and be willing to say no to the currents that would lead to less worthwhile pleasures. As the Buddha said, if you see a greater pleasure that comes from forsaking a lesser pleasure, be willing to forsake that lesser pleasure for the greater one. Sounds like a no-brainer, but if you look at the way most people live, they don’t think in those terms. They want everything that comes their way. They want to have their cake and enlightenment, too; to win at chess without sacrificing a single pawn. Even when they meditate, their purpose in developing mindfulness is to gain an even more intense appreciation of the experience of every moment in life. That’s something you never see in the teachings. The theme is always that you have to let go of this in order to gain that, give this up in order to arrive at that. There’s always a trade-off.

This is why so much of the training lies in learning to put this aside, put that aside, give this up, give that up. Developing this habit on the external level makes us reflect on the internal level: Which attachments in the mind would be good to give up? Could our mind survive perfectly well without the things we tend to crave?

When you’re meditating, the same process holds. People sometimes wonder why they can’t get their minds to concentrate. It’s because they’re not willing to give up other interests, even for the time being. A thought comes and you just go right after it without checking to see where it’s going. This idea comes that sounds interesting, that looks intriguing, you’ve got a whole hour to think about whatever you want. If that’s your attitude toward the meditation period, nothing’s going to get accomplished. You have to realize that this is your opportunity to get the mind stable and still. In order to do that, you have to give up all kinds of other thoughts. Thoughts about the past, thoughts about the future, figuring this out, planning for that, whatever: you have to put them all aside. No matter how wonderful or sophisticated those thoughts are, you just say no to them.

–Thanissaro Bhikkhu

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Nurse Donates Own Kidney to Patient

You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give. — Kahlil Gibran

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Good News of the Day:
The way Clay Taber looks at it, he’s got three moms now. There’s the woman who gave birth to him and raised him, of course. Then there’s his fiancee’s mother. And then there’s the transplant nurse who, though practically a stranger, donated one of her healthy kidneys so that he might start married life untethered to a dialysis machine. Allison Batson first heard about Taber, now 23, in August 2010, when a charge nurse at Atlanta’s Emory University Hospital told her “it looks like we’ve got an admission from Columbus, Ga. It’s a 22-year-old in renal failure,” Batson recalled. “It just tore me up.” Taber was told that he could expect to wait 3 to 5 years. But Batson had another idea — to offer him one of hers. “I know this sounds crazy, and it may never happen, but this young man reminds me of one of our kids,” Batson told her husband.
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Blow someone away with an unexpected gift today.

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