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Kindness Daily: Where is Jeremy’s Egg?

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Where is Jeremy’s Egg? January 17, 2012 – Posted by helpfulguy
Jeremy was born with a twisted body, slow mind, and chronic terminal illness that had been slowly killing him throughout his young life. Still, his parents had tried their best to give him as normal of a life as posible and sent him to St. Theresa’s Elementary school.

At the age of 12, Jeremy was only in second grade, seemingly unable to learn. His teacher, Doris often became exasperated with him. He would often disturb the class by squirming in his seat. drooling, and making grunting noises.

Sometimes, he spoke clearly and distinctly, as if a spot of light had penetrated the darkness of his brain. Most of the time, he just irritated his teacher. One day, Dorris called his parents and asked them to come to St. Theresa’s for a consultation.

Jeremy’s parents sat quietly in the empty classroom in front of Ms. Doris, and she exclaimed to them, "Jeremy really belongs in a special school. It isn’t fair to him to be with younger children who don’t have learning problems. Why, there is a five year gap between his age and that of the other students!"

Mrs. Forrester cried softly into a tissue while her husband spoke."Miss Miller,"he said,"there is no school of that kind nearby. It would be a terrible shock for Jeremy if we had to take him out of this school. He really likes it here."

Doris sat for a long time after they left, staring at the snow outside the window. Its coldness seemed to seep into her soul. She wanted to sympathize with the Forresters. After all, their only child had a terminal illness. But it wasn’t fair to keep him in her class. She had 18 other youngsters to teach, and Jeremy was a distraction. Furthermore,he would never learn to read and write.Why waste any more time trying?

As she pondered the situation, guilt washed over her."Oh God,"she said aloud,"here I am complaining, when my problems are nothing compared with that poor family.

From that day on,she tried hard to ignore Jeremy’s noises and his blank stares. Then one day he limped to her desk, dragging his bad leg behind him.

"I love you, Miss Miller" he exclaimed, loud enough for the whole class to hear.The other students snickered, and Doris’s face turned red. She stammered, "Wh-why, thats very nice, Jeremy. Now please take your seat."

Spring came and the children talked excitedly about the coming of Easter. Doris told them the story of Jesus,and then to emphasize the idea of new life springing forth,she gave each of them a large plastic egg."Now," She said to them, "I want you to take this home and bring it back tomorrow with something inside that shows new life. Do you understand? "Yes,Miss Miller!" The children responded enthusiastically. All the children responded except for Jeremy. He just listened intently; his eyes never left her face. He did not even make his usual noises.

Had he understood what she had said about Jesus’s death and resurrection? Did he understand the assignment?

The next morning, 19 children came to school, laughing and talking as they placed their eggs in a large wicker basket on Miss Miller’s desk. After they completed their math lesson,it was time to open the eggs.

In the first egg, Doris found a flower."Oh yes, a flower is certainly a sign of new life," she said. When plants peek through the ground, we know that spring is here." A small girl in the first row waved her arm. "That’s my egg Miss Miller" she called out.

The next egg had a beautiful butterfly in it, and one had a rock with moss on it. Then Doris opened the forth egg,it was empty! Surely it must be Jeremy’s she thought, and of course, he did not understand the instructions.

She put that egg down so she wouldn’t embarrass him. Suddenly Jeremy spoke up and said " Aren’t you going to talk about my egg?Flustered, Doris replied, "But Jeremy-your egg is empty!" Jeremy look into her eyes and said softly "Yes, but Jesus’s tomb was empty,too!"

Time stoped. When she could speak again, Doris asked him. "Do you know why his tomb was empty?" "Oh yes!" Jeremy exclaimed "Jesus was killed and put in there. Then his father raised him up!"

The recess bell rang. While the children excitedly ran out to the school yard, Doris cried. The cold inside her melted completly away.

Three months later, Jeremy died. Those who paid their respects at the funeral were surprised to see 19 eggs on top of his Jeremey’s casket, all of them empty.

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In Africa, the Art of Listening

The first duty of love is to listen. — Paul Tillich

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“For nearly 25 years I’ve lived off and on in Mozambique. Time has passed, and I’m no longer young; in fact, I’m approaching old age. But my motive for living this straddled existence, with one foot in African sand and the other in European snow, in the melancholy region of Norrland in Sweden where I grew up, has to do with wanting to see clearly, to understand. The simplest way to explain what I’ve learned from my life in Africa is through a parable about why human beings have two ears but only one tongue. Why is this? Probably so that we have to listen twice as much as we speak. In Africa listening is a guiding principle. It’s a principle that’s been lost in the constant chatter of the Western world,” shares author Henning Mankell in this insightful NY Times article.
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Dignity of Restraint
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A word that tends to disappear from common vocabulary is restraint: foregoing certain pleasures, not because we have to, but because they go against our principles. The opportunity to indulge in those pleasures may be there, but we learn how to say no. This of course is related to another word we tend not to use, and that’s temptation. Even though we don’t have to believe that there’s someone out there actively tempting us, there are things all around us that do, that tempt us to give in to our desires. And an important part of our practice is that we exercise restraint.

What’s good about it? Well, for one thing, if we don’t have any restraint, we don’t have any control over where our lives are going. Anything that comes our way immediately pulls us into its wake. We don’t have any strong sense of priorities, of what’s really worthwhile, of what’s not worthwhile, of the pleasures we’d gain by saying no to other pleasures. How do we rank the pleasures in our lives, the happiness, the sense of well-being that we get in various ways? Actually, there’s a sense of well-being that comes from being totally independent, from not needing other things. If that state of well-being doesn’t have a chance to develop, if we’re constantly giving in to our impulse to do this or take that, we’ll never know what that well-being is.

At the same time, we’ll never know our impulses. When you simply ride with your impulses, you don’t understand their force. They’re like the
currents below the surface of a river: only if you try to build a dam across the river will you detect those currents and appreciate how strong they are. So we have to look at what’s important in life, develop a strong sense of priorities, and be willing to say no to the currents that would lead to less worthwhile pleasures. As the Buddha said, if you see a greater pleasure that comes from forsaking a lesser pleasure, be willing to forsake that lesser pleasure for the greater one. Sounds like a no-brainer, but if you look at the way most people live, they don’t think in those terms. They want everything that comes their way. They want to have their cake and enlightenment, too; to win at chess without sacrificing a single pawn. Even when they meditate, their purpose in developing mindfulness is to gain an even more intense appreciation of the experience of every moment in life. That’s something you never see in the teachings. The theme is always that you have to let go of this in order to gain that, give this up in order to arrive at that. There’s always a trade-off.

This is why so much of the training lies in learning to put this aside, put that aside, give this up, give that up. Developing this habit on the external level makes us reflect on the internal level: Which attachments in the mind would be good to give up? Could our mind survive perfectly well without the things we tend to crave?

When you’re meditating, the same process holds. People sometimes wonder why they can’t get their minds to concentrate. It’s because they’re not willing to give up other interests, even for the time being. A thought comes and you just go right after it without checking to see where it’s going. This idea comes that sounds interesting, that looks intriguing, you’ve got a whole hour to think about whatever you want. If that’s your attitude toward the meditation period, nothing’s going to get accomplished. You have to realize that this is your opportunity to get the mind stable and still. In order to do that, you have to give up all kinds of other thoughts. Thoughts about the past, thoughts about the future, figuring this out, planning for that, whatever: you have to put them all aside. No matter how wonderful or sophisticated those thoughts are, you just say no to them.

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