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Secrets of the 100-yr-old Marathoner

The secret to a long and healthy life is to be stress-free. Be grateful for everything you have, stay away from people who are negative, stay smiling and keep running. — Fauja Singh, 100-yr-old Marathoner

~~~~ Good News of the Day: Most people hang up their boots as they get older, but Fauja Singh only began running in his eighties. At the age of 94, he ran a full marathon in less than 5 hours, but on 16 Oct 2011, at the age of 100, he still has it in him. Singh did what no other person has done: he became the oldest person and the first centenarian to finish a marathon. Along the way, he’s received sponsorship deals, but he donates it all. “I’m not really interested in all the rupees, I give it to charity,” he says of his sponsorship deal. “Money can be saved and spent and lost and made. At my age it’s nice just to do this. […] Look how blessed I am. What’s not to be happy about?” http://premiere.whatcounts.com/t?ctl=1699F86:C3009629A010612CB0AFC77C2523E16BB4B847859706E37D&

~~~~ Be The Change: Do something that gives you meaning and joy, regardless of whether you think you’re too old or too young.

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Dharma Quote from Snow Lion Publications

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Focusing the mind on the object of meditation is like planting a seed for the arisal of the realization…. Even in the beginning stages one might become impatient, thinking, “I really want to get this done quickly.” One might think that by exerting more effort, by adding more and more stuff, by changing things this way or that way the process can be made to go faster.

The good gardener knows that too much water or fertilizer is harmful, not helpful. The mature meditator must understand this as well. The Kadampa masters of old gave this counsel: First, pay great heed to getting the proper causes and conditions together. Next, engage in the practice without agitation and without anxiety. Then, with the mind at ease, carry on to the end.(p.20)

–from How to Practice Shamatha Meditation: The Cultivation of Meditative Quiescence by Gen Lamrimpa, translated by B. Alan Wallace, published by Snow Lion Publications

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Kindness Daily: Remembering an Anonymous Friend, 15 Years Later

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Remembering an Anonymous Friend, 15 Years Later October 20, 2011 – Posted by hrjamest
I had just graduated college and couldnt find a job in Los Angeles. I ended up moving to Las Vegas but left my wife and two kids behind. I missed them all week, and I went home on most weekends to see them. Most of the time I rented a car because it was hard to get my beat up car over the pass to get to and from Vegas.

Well, one time I decided to save money, and I took my car. It made it to California, but Sunday on the way back to Vegas it conked out in the broiling Nevada nigh. Not having any idea what I would do, this middle-aged angel drove up. He gave me some water, put in some coolant, and fiddled with the engine a bit. He got it started.

I gave him the $12 I had in my wallet and he said he would use it for the next car. It turns out my anonymous friend is a mechanic who drives up and down that stretch of the highway each weekend rescuing stranded motorists and only takes donations if they are offered. Fifteen years later I still think about what a beautiful man he was.

James Scott Toland, 45 in Sunland, Ca.

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7 Ways Sharing Can Make You Happy

The miracle is this: the more we share the more we have. — Leonard Nemoy

~~~~ Tip of the Day: One silver lining in dark economic times is that as people learn to make do with less, they are discovering the many benefits of sharing. New psychological research suggests that sharing fosters trust and cooperation in the community and contributes to personal well-being. Researchers are finding that sharing impacts people in the very specific ways that are closely linked to increased happiness. These include effects such as improved physical health, increased levels of trust, causes for gratitude, opportunities for cooperation, and more. Here are 7 ways sharing can make you happy. http://premiere.whatcounts.com/t?ctl=1699E08:C3009629A010612C3335CCBE19E51EAEB4B847859706E37D&

~~~~ Be The Change: Reflect on a recent time someone shared something with you. Let them know about the impact of their generosity.

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Why Do Some People Learn Faster

Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better. — Samuel Beckett

~~~~ Tip of the Day: Why are some people so much more effective at learning from their mistakes? A new study by Jason Moser at Michigan State University is premised on the fact that there are two distinct reactions to mistakes, both of which can be reliably detected using EEG. The first reaction is called error-related negativity (ERN). It appears about 50 milliseconds after a screw-up and is mostly involuntary. The second signal, which is known as error positivity (Pe), arrives anywhere between 100-500 milliseconds after the mistake and is associated with awareness. The latest research suggests that we learn more effectively when we have 1) a larger ERN signal, suggesting a bigger initial response to the mistake and 2) a more consistent Pe signal, which means that we are probably paying attention to the error, and thus trying to learn from it. This Wired Magazine article delves further into the neuroscience of learning from mistakes.
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~~~~ Be The Change: Recognize and embrace your next mistake. Then learn from it.

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Becoming a Presence Activist

The dream was always running ahead of one. To catch up, to live for a moment in unison with it, that was a miracle. — Anais Nin

~~~~ Inspiration of the Day: “A friend of mine is visiting from out of town and staying in East Oakland, in an area that’s infamous for its gang violence and unrest. This friend happens to be a monk. He shaves his head and dresses in the traditional brown robes of his monastic order — not the kind of person who blends easily into the background. Having spent many years making compassion a conscious practice, his response to situations is to try to do his bit to spread goodness. So he went out for a walk, just to engage with the community. As he was walking up 35th Avenue, a couple of tough-looking street youth yelled out to him: ‘Hey man!’ He turned around, looked at them and said, ‘Yes?’ ‘Are you a Buddhist monk?’ ‘Yes, I am.’ ‘You look hella peaceful, man!'” A poignant reflection on what it means to become a ‘presence activist.’ http://premiere.whatcounts.com/t?ctl=1699BDB:C3009629A010612C7F57536DF18E7A80B4B847859706E37D&

~~~~ Be The Change: Give the gift of presence: shine extra care and attention onto all your interactions today.

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InnerNet Weekly: Psychological Materialism

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Psychological Materialism
by Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche

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751.jpgEven if you are against the materialism of society and you do not want to support it, refusing to work is still grasping at the wrong end of the stick. Not taking part in work and practical activity is not going to achieve anything. More than any anything else, it will simply magnify your own negativity. By not doing anything to help, you will merely feel the sense of being useless in society. If you really take this kind of nonparticipation to its logical conclusion, it means that you shouldn’t eat, you shouldn’t even breathe, because the air you breath also belongs to the world and society. This approach could become quite extreme. If you take it all the way, it means you shouldn’t exist at all.

There’s a great deal of confusion about materialism and society. Just taking care of one’s business or even running a business doesn’t amount to materialism. There’s nothing wrong with that at all. What really produces the materialistic outlook towards society is psychological materialism. Materialism has a pervasive kind of philosophy connected with it that is passed from one person to another orally and taught to everyone through examples. One person catches it from another. However, trying to reject that contagion by purely not doing anything, not caring for anything at all, simply doesn’t work.

Not doing anything takes the form of laziness, and in order to be lazy we have to develop a certain kind of intelligence. Laziness has tremendous intelligence in it, in fact. When you are lazy, as soon as you have the urge to do anything, immediately a kind of answer comes to you that you can present about why you don’t have to do it. Later you can say: "I didn’t do it because I didn’t have time. Thus and such happened and I didn’t have a chance to do it. It was because of that." This automatic answer that comes to you is very convenient. One has to be very intelligent to find these kinds of excuses. There is tremendous intelligence in laziness, but it is misused intelligence.

The best way to use our intelligence is to learn to feel what the skillful action in a situation is. To do that, we have to relate to the earth as directly as possible. Interestingly, we call this being "grounded." In this approach, we do not regard work as just a job but as a way of expressing our ourselves. It could be work in the garden or work around the house—cooking food, washing the dishes—whatever. These are not really jobs, but they are what has to be done because nature demands attention. It is very interesting that if you leave something undone or do not relate to even a small matter like, for instance, cooking with full and proper attention and clear thinking, then some kind of chaos is going to come up. This will happen because you are not relating properly; you are not expressing your love properly toward the earth. Either you are going to break a dish or you’re going to spill something, or the food you’re cooking is going to turn out badly, or something else will go wrong. Nature tends to react very sensitively this way. If you don’t feel the relationship between the work and yourself, then chaos is going to arise.

A balanced state of mind depends on the way you do things, the way you pour a cup of tea and the way you put sugar and milk in it. It may seem like a really insignificant thing, but it means everything. You can always tell whether a person feels the activity she is engaged in as dealing with the earth or whether she feels it as just some casual thing or something she is doing because she has to. If the person is not relating to the earth, then you can always feel a certain clumsiness, even if the person’s action appears to be smooth. This is very evident and easy to sense.

–Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche

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Year of Dancing with Life – Week 2

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Smile Newsletter: I Wish You Enough

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“You may say that I’m a dreamer but I’m not the only one, I hope someday you’ll join us and the world will be as one” — John Lennon
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146.jpg“On a cold winter day we got a small group of students to come together and make one hundred hot chocolates. It was for no reason other than simply to brighten people’s day!” — jump4joy

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Time is Precious: Dr. BJ Miller’s Journey

Every man dies – not every man really lives. — William Wallace

~~~~ Inspiration of the Day: Dr. BJ Miller is only 40 but he thinks about death a lot. He is the new executive director of the Zen Hospice Project in San Francisco and a palliative care specialist at UCSF Medical Center. He is also a triple amputee, co-founder of a tea company, owner of a farm in Utah and a newlywed who still looks like the Ivy Leaguer he once was. “I have no fear of death,” Miller said. “I have a fear of not living my life fully before I die.” On Nov. 27, 1990, he came close to dying. As a result of Miller’s encounter with 11,000 volts of electricity, his left arm was amputated below the elbow and his legs below the knees. He still has flashbacks to the explosion and remembers the difficulties of fitting his nearly 6-foot-5 frame into a helicopter bound for a burn unit. When it was time to find a calling, Miller chose medicine because he could use his experiences to connect with people and he felt an affinity for anyone going through an illness.
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~~~~ Be The Change: Read the inspiring last words published by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler Ross, the thanatologist who helped bring the hospice movement to the U.S. http://premiere.whatcounts.com/t?ctl=1699917:C3009629A010612C01ECB5C71F0DD99EB4B847859706E37D&

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